Love in the bible

1 Corinthians 13:5
“[Love] keeps no record of wrongs”

I think I’ve always had a trouble with that. I forgive somewhat and I don’t forget at all. I think it’s because part of me doesn’t want to forgive entirely because I want the person who hurt me to be hurt in return. I think also, when someone apologizes to me, I take the apology and forgive them…somewhat. I’ll be friends with them again but I’ll always remember and at certain times, even if its way in the past, I’ll still feel a bit of anger. I keep a record of all the wrong things people do to me and I have a hard time really, truly forgiving.

And now on with Sunday’s sermon.
Love for Enemies (Matthew 5:43-48)

-Christianity is a religion of “do’s”
-3 things that Jesus tells us to do for our enemies to show them love is to 1. do good for/to them 2. bless them 3. pray for them. Yes..show enemies love.
-Motion makes emotion. If you act first, then the feelings that you want to receive will come. Show love and love will be returned to you.
-Love your enemies through action
-Blessing consists of 1. touch (like a hug or pat) 2. words (kind words) 3. a special affirmation
-don’t react in anger
-pray for those who mistreat us
- a woman named Elizabeth Elliot said “treat your enemies like how you would treat Jesus”
-The theme of sermon on the mount is to “be different” and you cannot be more different from the world than if you love your enemies.

Sermon 7/27/08

Pastor Mike’s sermon:

-good relationships constantly need to be rebuilt
-a person’s earthly relationship condition with others affects his/her heavenly relationship with God
-people need to have a sense of urgency when they worship God, when they remember that they have a fractured relationship
-Make peace with adversaries and friends
-in any relationship, you need to apologize.
1. be specific when apologizing (shows understanding..AND NEVER USE ‘BUT’)
wrong example: i’m sorry
correct examplee: I’m sorry  for not calling earlier.
2. accept responsibility and say you’re wrong
3. make things right (ask the other how to make things right)
4. ask for forgiveness (don’t assume forgiveness)

-lowest moral reasoning is when a person feels regret ONLY WHEN CAUGHT

5 love languages: each person has a different love language. For example: a husband gives a wife a 50 inch plasma t.v. for an anniversary. But she doesn’t want that. She wants a candlelight dinner. Each person has his/her own different love language. So the five love languages are:
1. make affirmation
ex: wow! that dress looks amazing on you!
2. acts of service
3. gifts
4. quality time
5. physical touch (hugs, a pat on the back, etc.)

when you heal other relationships, you heal your relationship with God.

How Does She Know-Enchanted

How does she know you love her?
How does she know she’s yours?
How does she know that you love her?
How do you show her you love her?
How does she know that you really, really, truly love her?

How does she know that you love her?
How do you show her you love her?
How does she know that you really, really, truly love her?

It’s not enough to take the one you love for granted
You must remind her, or she’ll be inclined to say…
“How do I know he loves me?”
“How do I know he’s mine?”
Well does he leave a little note to tell you you are on his mind?
Send you yellow flowers when the sky is gray? Heeeeey
He’ll find a new way to show you, a little bit everyday
That’s how you know, that’s how you know!
He’s your love…

You’ve got to show her you need her
Don’t treat her like a mind reader
Each day do something to need her
To believe you love her

Everybody wants to live happily ever after
Everybody wants to know their true love is true…
How do you know he loves you?
How do you know he’s yours?
Well does he take you out dancing just so he can hold you close?
Dedicate a song with words meant just for you? oooo
He’ll find his own way to tell you
With the little things he’ll do
That’s how you know
That’s how you know!
He’s your love
He’s your love…

That’s how you know
He loves you
That’s how you know
It’s true

Because he’ll wear your favorite color
Just so he can match your eyes
Rent a private picnic
By the fires glow-oohh!
His heart will be yours forever
Something everyday will show
That’s how you know
That’s how you know
He’s your love…

“Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always, ‘me first,’ Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps on going to the end. Love never dies.” From “The Message” translation by Eugene Peterson.

peter wrote this for nine months

Things about 9 months:
1. Learning how to drive a train = 9 months
2. Birth = around 9 months
3. 273.931649 days = 9 months
4. 9 months the movie came out in 1995
5. babies usually learn how to stand up at 9 months
6. babies ususally say mama and papa at 9 months
7. walden university special program for disabled people usually lasts 9 months.
8.a person ususally breaths from 27900 to 55800 times in 9 months
9. and last it takes 9 months for peter to say happy 9 months and do something fantastic and not be like… this sucks -_- XD a;lsdf;alskfj;alsdjfa;sldfkja;ldfkjasdfla;dsfkjas;dfkja;sdlfkjasdf lol

=)

Lots of the things that i’m gonna do today is gonna revolve around 9

this is now the 9 reasons I like susan lu=)

1. because whenever she sees me she smiles REALLY BIG
2. because she eats my food even though sometimes i don’t like what i cook, and she is happy with the food she eats and goes this is REALLY GOOD=)
3. because whenever i do anything wrong she’s still able to forgive me and ends up making the day a lot better.
4. because she sings really well even though she sings really soft
5. because she talks a lot  =P and is able to get a conversation stable
6. because she likes to do a lot of things i like to do
7. because she’s really smart O_O (side note it is now 4:44 as i am writing this)
8. because she’s on my side most of the time and backs me up and pushes me forward even when i can’t push myself
9. because she’s not lazy…. most of the time =P

but wait!!!!! doesn’t this seem really lame and stupid, i mean only 9 reasons why i like the love of my life…. nooo this can’t be
that’s why we at corporation peter loves susan we’re adding 8!!!! more REASONS why peter likes susan =) because susan’s favorite number is 8! so on this extraordinary day june 19th 2008 we are offering 17 reasons for the price of 9! at the low cost of going out on a date with peter chien. I think it’s worth it, the whole corporation peter loves susan thinks it’s worth it, and we LIKE IT!

so let’s get on with the show the next 8 reasons

1. she always wants my attention
2. she always gives me attention
3. she has been with me for 9 months even though we had many problems
4. she is really understanding of my faults
5. she makes a mean alfredo chicken dumpling
6. she swims really well
7. she knows how to have a lot of fun
8. she makes my parents happy =)

what did you say? 17 is just not enough for you!? what? you want an aunchor? okay… here we go we’re gonna give you 7!!!! more reasons why peter chien loves susan, butttt these are suppose to be very deep, and if this doesn’t please you…. then i have failed here as the administrator of corporation peter loves susan and i will give up on life. BUT WAIT i’m not done yet, i’m still gonna give you these brilliant reasons for why peter chien loves susan. So hold onto your horses, and hold your checks read this before you ask for your refund because it ain’t over till the fat lady sings…. or in the case, when the skinny lady squeals. (audience laughs)

1. even though i don’t have anything fantastic about me she cares about me and likes me and loves me, even though i’m not super funny she still laughs even though i’m not really good looking she thinks i’m great looking even though i’m not that smart she thinks i’m a genius even though i can’t sing she thinks i’m very harmonic and calming even though the food i make isn’t that great she thinks it’s a chief’s recipe.
2. even though we fought so many times and there are many times she could have left me she’s still here and she’s closer to me then ever instead of moving farther away
3. She can turn any situation into something that makes me happy, she makes everything seem really fantastic, and beautiful
4. she can look at anything and see the good parts and be really positive for me, even though i’m so negative she makes everything + =)
5. she likes all the little things i do i don’t have to do something big for her to see it, she enjoys it all big or small and makes it big inside her heart.
6. she’s got eyes on me, not eyes on 2 places or 3 places but eyes on me, even though she could go after other people instead of me she’s right here with eyes on me, and she wants my eyes on her.
7. i love her cause she loves me =)

hope you enjoyed this sumo, i have another surprise for you when you come to my house. =) haha this was kinda stupid wasn’t it? i tried to make it funny but i failed misersably but yea=) hope you enjoy our 9 months.

and then he gave me another letter and we went to banana bay for dinner
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Dear God
i pray you will help me stop being such a jealous person all the time. I pray that you’ll take the jealousy and the bitterness away from my heart and that you will help me patch up my relationships with the people that i am jealous of. I know that there’s no real reason to be jealous and that my jealousy could potentially end up doing something stupid so I pray that you’ll forgive me for being super jealous and envious all the time.
Amen

how to grow “Love”

The Seven Levels of Intimacy-Chapter Five

 this post is taken from Roxanne’s facebook note.

The Seven Levels Of Intimacy- a self-help book
By. Matthew Kelly

CHAPTER FIVE
p. 100-102

While I was writing this book, a young man approached me after one of my seminars to seek my counsel. He was twenty-seven years old; he worked hard,
loved his wife and was faithful to her, and had three wonderful children whom he loved very much. Two weeks earlier, his wife had told him that she wanted a divorce.

When he asked her why, she told him that she didn’t love him anymore. He asked her whether there was someone else, and she said there wasn’t. Then he asked her whether it was something he had done, and she told him that it wasn’t his fault, that he was a good father and a good husband, but that she just didn’t love him anymore. It’s a sad situation, and a common one.

Love is not a feeling. From when we are very young, through powerful mediums such as movies and music, we are conditioned to believe that it is. The result
of this conditioning is that we allow our actions to be dictated by our feelings. Rather than asking ourselves whether a particular person is going to help us become our best self, we simply allow our feelings to take us wherever they will at any particular moment. And I don’t know whether you’ve noticed it, but feelings are one of the most inconsistent aspects of human person. (<- how true is that)

Love is a choice, not a feeling. Feelings comes and go, and if we choose to base our most important relationships on how we feel at any particular moment,
we are in for a rough and rocky journey. Love is verb, not a noun. Love is something we do, not something that happens to us.

Stephen Covey tells a great story. On this particular day he had been presenting a series of talks about pro-activity: the idea that as human beings
we are responsible for our lives. Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions. We can subordinate feelings to values. We have the initiative and the responsibility to make things happen.

After his presentation, Covey was approached by a man who said, “Stephen, I like what you’re saying. But every situation is so different. Look at my marriage. I am really worried. My wife and I just don’t have the same feeling for each other we used to have. I guess I just don’t love her anymore and she doesn’t
love me. What can I do?”

“The feeling isn’t there anymore?” Covey asked.
“That’s right” the man reaffirmed. “And we have three children whom we’re really concerned about. What do you suggest?”
“Love her,” Covey replied.
“You don’t understand. The feeling of love just isn’t there.”
“Then love her. If the feeling isn’t there, that’s a good reason to love her.”
“But how do you love when you don’t love?”
“My friend, ‘love’ is a verb. Love –the feeling — is the fruit of love, the verb. So love her.”

Genesis Winter Retreat 2008

So I’m back from retreat!
This year was my very first retreat and I had alot of fun
I’m kind of sad that everything’s over- that this four day weekend is over…that AMAZING RACE is over T_T

this was my bed in the girl’s cabin
The older girls stayed on one side and the younger girls on the other side

So during free time and in the mornings, people stayed inside the rec room. And we pigged out on snacks, played bang, big2 and pool

norbert and peter playing pool

lawrence and peter playing pool

So saturday morning, I woke up at 5:30 and about 10 people went up the mountains to see the sunrise.
we didn’t really see the sunrise..more the dark turn into the light.
but it was still fun and it was a great way for me to experience the cold.
first time that i’ve seen snow!
It wasnt snowing or anything but there was still leftover snow on the ground here and there

snoww!

too lazy to turn this around but more snowwwww

FROSTY!
a few of the girls made this haha. it’s so cutee and tiny.
And they were going to make frosty’s girlfriend but she turned out to be a lump of dirt
I don’t know if they finished her or not.

peter on a skateboard?

saturday afternoon was amazing race
it took us forever to find clues! and to figure them out but it was well worth it
I think the funnest part was when we found tony and he made us rack up  two hundred points by running laps, doing push ups, and sit ups ON THE COLD, WET, MUDDY GROUND.
peter did most of the pushups and situps. but the whole group did a four person pushup and basically you’re doing a pushup while someone is on top of you. that was painful, hard, but funn and i did some situps.
getting muddy and dirty was fun
that was an awesome workout because we were basically running up and down the moutain, looking for clues and for people for four hours
and i found out what orion’s belt looked like when peter showed me at night hooray.

now on a more serious note, I thought that this retreat really made me think about my relationship with God.
the theme of this year’s retreat was “wholly devoted”
Tony talked about
-why do you come to church?
-Christianity has alot to offer you, God has alot to offer you
-we take God for granted sometimes
-what is your relationship with God?
-matthew 7:22 says “many will say to me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and in your name dirve out demons and perform many miracles?’ Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!’

Norbert talked about what it meant to be wholly devoted and how to be wholly devoted.
-how you have to know what you’re getting into.
-You cannot say “i’m going to give christianity a try“
-Devotion is  1) a decision to trust God with all your heart. It’s all or nothing.
                        2) an expression of complete self abandonment
-Devotion is maintained by including God in every aspect of your life.
-there’s a big difference between a fan and a follower of God.
-To know God for who he is to recognize devotion.
-Devotion is developed when we recognize God’s majesty, eternity and glory/holiness.
-Sometimes, God breaks you to make you realize his grace which leads you to appreciate his grace.
-live like Josiah (2 Kings 23:25)

Norbert also talked about how when you’re in a relationship with another person
you should push each other spiritually.
you should find a mentor.
you should keep each other accountable, pray together, and be totally honest with one another

and in friendships,
you should keep each other accountable.

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Special Days

I think I should be nicer and kinder to people.
The Rachel’s Challenge assembly was sad.
And I also think I should appreciate the people in my life more
and show more appreciation and care for the people who impact and help me deeply.
Thank youu
mom, dad, leo, cindy wen, janet lui, peter chien, steven lin, lawrence yeh, tabatha mills, ashley kam, eunice chou, jessica hu, michael chang, enoch fashomashocasholasho, and many more.
So today’s assembly was a special day
Andd thank you for coming to visit me twice this week, pumo!